What Happened To Good Manners?
When I was a child I was taught that ‘Manners Maketh The Man’, or girl/woman in my case. It’s something that I think is very important. I’m teaching good manners to my children and trying to encourage them to be courteous and respectful of other people. Not just please and thank you, although they are exceptionally important, but also learning to wait to speak until adults have finished talking, holding the door for people, thanking people if they let you go first in a queue or stand to the side to let you past.
It’s not easy but it’s something that I hold personal pride in and I want the children to do so too.
But I’ve found that recently it’s harder and harder to find examples of good manners when you are out and about. Take a couple of weeks ago at the park. My husband stopped a little girl (no more than 2) from getting kicked in the face when she ran in front of a swing. The parents didn’t thank him. I then stopped the very same little girl from jumping off a 4ft high ledge (way taller than herself), again no thanks. To me that warrants at least a smile, but nothing. It was as if nothing had happened at all.
Walking around the town centre and stopping at a narrow point on the pavement to let people through without even a smile. Letting people out of junctions in the car without so much as a wave of thanks. Making sure the children step into the side of the path in the park to let children on bikes through safely, not even a nod!
It’s hard to expect children to understand what good manners are if they don’t see good examples as the norm isn’t it?
Are good manners extinct? I’d love to know your take on it!